New Year’s Resolutions 2025
themes of growth and family and home and adjustment and change. new life, and the big feelings that accompany it. i used to think when a heart broke, it could not love again. i was wrong, a heart can break, remain shattered, and go on loving.
feel that everyday grief. reading Do Not Go Gentle to my dead father. having to shift my grammar. my dad is, my dad was. present to past. present, and absent, to absent.
a life well lived, is so vibrantly different across the full spectrum of human diversity. don’t strain for anyone else’s goals but your own.
indulge in your passions the old ones and the new ones.
let rage fuel you. but don’t let that be your only motivator. you must sleep and eat and check in and refuel. the rage is protective of love.
i cry so often my tears are a collective joke of those that love me. cry anyway. shame is useless here. there is no such thing as normal.
try again, ask for advice, apologise and give it a go anyway. no one is born good at things. things you are bad at are good for you.
seek laughter. the simplest fools have the wisest words, and the sharpest wit.
make time for reflection in a way that works for your brain. that’s going to look different for different people.
the priest at my father’s funeral, she preached on agape. i return to it also year on year. as families lose, families gain.
i am more haunted by myself every year. i am doing something worse. i’m growing roots. i’m becoming more myself every day. cherish the things about you that others would have you change.